Red Flags in Dating - 10 signs to run.

It’s easy to get wrapped up in the chemistry you feel, the hope that he’s “the one”, and of course amazing sex. The old blinded by love. Well, it’s time for women (all of us) to pull off the shades and start dating with intention.

Intentionally dating to find a man genuinely capable of committing to a healthy relationship can save you from years of heartache. (If you’re looking for a f*ck boy this article isn’t for you.)

Below is a list of 10 common red flags to be mindful of when dating. If a man is displaying multiple red flags over and over when you’re dating, you can bet the marriage license you’re dreaming of that he’s a tool.

All of these red flags have strong implications that happily ever after is not how your dating story will end. Instead, you’ll willingly participate in an unhealthy toxic relationship that continually breaks your heart and makes you question your sanity.

10 DATING RED FLAGS -

He’s a hot head or abusive.

If a man is verbally, mentally, emotionally or physically aggressive with you (or others) that’s the biggest red flag the universe could ever send you! Abusive behavior will not change. Watch for subtle warning signs in the beginning. Is he easily irritated? How does he refer to his ex? Can he be told no without losing it?

He never introduces you to his friends or family.

When a man is genuinely interested in you, he’ll introduce you to people in his life that he’s close. If he’s asked you to be exclusive with him and you haven’t met his friends or family, that’s an ever bigger red flag. There’s a reason your being kept as a hidden treasure. You’re likely not the only person he’s hiding.

He says he wants to be exclusive but keeps his online dating profile.

There’s no excuse to justify a man remaining on a dating sight when he’s in a relationship with you. This is one of those common sense, girl don’t be stupid moments. If his dating profile is still active the red flag is waving!

He’s always seeking attention from other people.

When someone has a need for constant attention that can be a sign of deep insecurity. An insecure man is likely to be needy and jealous, even disliking when others are giving you attention instead of him. Everyone likes a good ego stroke every now and again, the difference here is the NEED for one.

He goes silent with no explanation.

Hours on end with no replies in this day and age is inexcusable. When someone cares about you, they’ll let you know if they won’t be available for an extended period of time. Ghosting someone is a sign of lack disrespect and no concern for your feelings. A BIG red flag.

He avoids discussing serious topics.

When someone avoids serious conversations, the future isn’t looking bright. Communication is the foundation of a healthy relationship. A man avoiding conversations or getting angry when you want to discuss what’s important you is a big glowing bouquet of red flags.

The majority of your friends are telling you to run.

No one likes to hear negative feedback from their friends, but the truth is, they know. You’re friends aren’t wrapped up in sexual chemistry with the man you’re dating or hoping to walk down the aisle. If the majority of them are telling you to run you should listen to their concerns and reevaluate your relationship.

He’s a momma’s boy.

Oh the momma’s boy. I don’t think I need to explain this one but if a man puts his mother’s wishes before yours, RUN. You will never be first and will always be wrong. Wedding bells will turn into wedding hells before you know it. Red Flag to the Norman Bates extreme!

His stories are inconsistent.

Inconsistency is a sign of being untruthful. Dating a liar will quickly replace chemistry with confusion, anxiety and anger. Pay attention during conversations of past relationships, employment, and friendships.

Inconsistencies are another area where dating with intention come in handy as subtle signs often lead to the biggest red flags.

He wants you to pick up the tab.

Before anyone gets crazy in the comments, I’m all for picking up the occasional dinner tab. However, a man wanting you to pay early in the dating stage is a sign he doesn’t value dating enough to invest in the experience. You are the experience. Know your worth.

It’s important to remember that a combination of dating red flags is a serious concern. You need to be mindful of what kind of relationship you want. There’s no amount of chemistry in the world that can undo the damage of ending up in an unhealthy or abusive relationship.

Good luck out there! Date with intention, be mindful, safe and remember people treat us the way we allow them to treat us. Set your standards high from day one and know your worth.

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I’m glad you’re here,

Jill Schmidt