Oh the gossip train. It rolls on and on and guess what? I no longer give a shit and you shouldn’t either!

I spent the majority of my life caring too much about what other people thought about me, my body, my relationships, my family, my imperfect teeth, you name it, I worried about it!

One of the best things about choosing yourself first and facing your own inner battles is you learn that the only person whose opinion truly matters is YOURS. No longer allowing the judgement and opinions of others to influence how I felt about myself was one of the FIRST habits I had to master to stay focused on creating a life I love. When the gossip train first started, I was hurt and quite frankly really pissed off. I wasn’t expecting to be lying flat on the tracks for making a decision that improved, and quite frankly, saved my life. But there she was just a rolling down the tracks plowing though every move I made.

Today I no longer react. I respond. With silence.

After you fight your way out of the darkness through learning emotional intelligence habits and forgiveness, something magical happens. Something really fucking magical! You become and unstoppable force. You become a women clothed in confidence, self-love and a strong desire to share the joy of being self content with others. You want to lift up, not tear down other women and that desire drowns out the opinions of others. You simply no longer give a shit what anyone thinks! And it’s incredible!

It’s literally a superpower that I had never mastered before and it’s incredible! Like jumping into a cold pool on a 110 degree day incredible! You need to empower yourself so you can jump in the pool and experience the refreshing freedom of not giving a shit what other people think. You can be messy, be bold and BE YOU!

10 Reasons I’ve learned that will help you not give a shit -

1. People that genuinely love or cares about you will talk to you, not about you. Their opinions are a reflection of their own misery, not of you. Remind yourself of this anytime you want to react to gossip…It helps, trust me!

2. Your friends that constantly talk about other people, talk about you. I PROMISE YOU THIS IS TRUE! Once you’re aware of this, you won’t be blindsided and you can choose your friends wisely. People that talk about everyone are not happy with their own lives. Giving attention to the opinion of someone that can’t get their own shit together just doesn’t make much sense does it?

3. When you no longer want or need an unhealthy habit in your life there will always be someone out there with that habit that resents you because they still want or need it. And they will take your success as an insult to them. Let them. That’s their issue to deal with, not yours.

4. There are people behind the scenes, the ones you don’t spend every day or your weekends with, that are silently cheering you on. They’re out there quietly waiting for you to choose better so they can be the light in your darkness. Their opinions will lift you up, not kick you when you’re down.

5. For every insult out there, there’s a circle of people waiting to accept you for who you are. Find them, thank them and love them for exactly who they are. Those are your people.

6. Forgiveness of yourself and others is imperative to self-growth and inner peace. Let people gossip, let them judge and you just keep moving forward. You’re creating a life you love and and they're still sitting in their own shit.

7. Once you love and accept yourself 100% for who you are, the opinions of others will roll off of you like rain on a windowsill. Your self-love and emotional intelligence habits empower you to respond instead of reacting. You are in control of your thoughts, your mood and your life.

8. We miss out on incredible opportunities and friendship when we base our decisions on the opinions of others. Wear the shirt, quit the job, dump the asshole, JUMP IN THE POOL!

9. Small minds breed big opinions. Let them.

10. Not giving a shit feels amazing! You're honoring yourself and standing firm in your personal growth without an ounce of energy being spent on negative chatter. That energy is attracting everything you’re working towards!

You deserve to live in an unconditional state of self love surrounded by people that genuinely love and support you. The ones that fall off along the way were seasonal. Hang them on the clearance rack and move into your new Season!

I’m glad you’re here,