We all know someone that radiates confidence when they walk into a room, jumps into challenges and seems to have the world wrapped around their finger. Have you ever wondered how they were so confident or wished you could have their level of self-esteem?

When I first started my healing journey my confidence was as close to zero as you can get. I went from loving public speaking and spending time with friends to not wanting to leave my house. Today I feel unstoppable!

What changed? I focused on self awareness and challenging myself to get out of my comfort zone. There’s incredible power in using practical strategies and mindset shifts to help you harness your inner power and become truly kick-ass when it comes to confidence! While I may not have the world wrapped around my finger, I do believe I can do anything I set my mind to and that even in failure I’ve succeeded because I went all in.

Here’s what I learned and practice daily to build my self confidence. Do you practice any of these?

1. Embrace Self-Awareness:
Understanding who you are, your values, strengths, and weaknesses is essential for building genuine confidence. I take time daily to reflect on myself. Through journaling, I acknowledge my positive attributes and my negative traits. Being honest with yourself and actively working on areas that need improvement is a key foundation for building confidence.

2. Challenge Limiting Beliefs:
Create a positive, empowering inner narrative that supports your journey towards unshakable confidence. Those doubts we have? They’re not our original dialogue. We weren’t born with self doubt, worried about how we look or feeling insecure. When you take time to dig deep and identify were the negative bullshit in your head came from and replace it with YOUR own positive narrative, your mindset shifts.

3. Change Your Perspective - Embrace Failure :

We’re trained through schooling that failing is something to be ashamed of. It’s NOT. Failure is an inevitable part of life, it’s our perspective when we fail at something is what matters. When you choose to embrace failure as a valuable learning opportunity rather than a reflection of your self worth, you grow. This often means being brutally honest with yourself on what you could have done better. Each setback is a chance to learn something new about yourself, learn how to adapt and expand your overall knowledge. When you change your perspective, failure becomes a stepping stone towards greater confidence and resilience!

4. Set Bold Goals:
Setting ambitious goals can be intimidating, but they ignite a fire within us and push us to exceed our own expectations. Every single great invention, million dollar product, and successful relationship started with bold goals. That thing you want to do that people think is “crazy” or “won’t work”? Do it! Break down your goals into actionable steps, and tackle them one day at a time. With each milestone achieved, your confidence will soar, propelling you towards even greater success! What’s that thing you’ve been wanting to do?

5. Cultivate Positive Self-Talk:
Did you know that the only person that talks directly to your brain every single day is you? That’s right and the words we speak to ourselves have a significant impact on our confidence. Replacing negative self-talk with uplifting affirmations and encouragement has become a daily habit for me. Journaling every morning and every night before bed has helped me keep this promise to myself. It’s so empowering to remind yourself of your strengths, talents, and past achievements. When is the last time you treated yourself with the same kindness and compassion you would offer a close friend?

6. Surround Yourself with Positivity:
We hear all of the time that the people we spend time with influence our thoughts, emotions, and who we become. Surrounding yourself with individuals who inspire and uplift you is crucial to developing unstoppable kick-ass self esteem. Build a support network that believes in your abilities and fuels your ambition! Cut ties with those who bring negativity or doubt into your life, and prioritize relationships that nurture your self-confidence. Part of growing into your best self is leaving things and people behind. Have you thought about how your circle really makes you feel?

7. Be Unapologetically Your Authentic Self:
We’re not supposed to be for everyone. I used to crave fitting in to the point I was constantly worried about it and would do just about anything to achieve it. Fitting in isn’t authentic, BELONGING is. Fitting in requires us to change who we are, belonging allows us to be ourselves. Understanding that everyone has their own journey and we don’t need to fit ourselves into someone else’s story, has helped me focus on being my genuine self. By embracing your authenticity, you unlock the power of self-acceptance, which is the bedrock of unstoppable self confidence.

8. Take Calculated Risks:
Stepping out of your comfort zone is hard. It’s also the most empowering thing you’ll ever do for yourself. When I sold everything I owned (at age 52) and left my home state to start over, it was one of the biggest risks I’ve ever taken. Now here I am! The shattered mom in the uhaul with an 11 year old, a puppy and 2 cats is healthier, happier and unstoppable. My self esteem is only based on how I feel about myself, it’s not ever based on anyone else’s opinion. Continuing to push yourself beyond your perceived limits will expose you to growth and personal development. The more risk-taking experiences you conquer, the more your self confidence will flourish!

Unleashing your unstoppable confidence is bold, beautiful and sometimes a messy transformative journey. It requires self-reflection, challenging your limiting beliefs, setting bold goals, and surrounding yourself with positivity. Embrace your failures, practice positive self-talk, and never stop pushing your boundaries! Remember, true confidence comes from within and radiates outwards, empowering you to live life to the fullest.

You can be that girl that walks in the room as if the world is wrapped around her finger! What steps are you going to practice? Comment below I’d love to hear from you.

I’m glad you’re here,

Jill Schmidt